If you are reading this and have a kid at dating age – pass this along.
Lessons of dating in your 40s…
1. Stop texting all the time.
Do not be readily available every time someone messages and don’t be the one consistently checking in when … you just met them.
Someone who messages a lot – this does not equal investment… it creates a false sense of knowing someone you don’t know. Spend the time in person getting to know them.
Live your life.. the right person will find you.
2. Do not get together last minute or when the person hits you up.
In the beginning, you teach people how to treat you. They need to make a plan, set a date, and take you out. If they can’t do it… then move on.
Last minute plans mean another option was good until it didn’t work out and now.. you look like a great option for the night.
3. Do not make excuses for bad behavior.
When someone says “let’s get together this weekend” and the weekend comes and they didn’t message – walk away. The beginning is when people show you who they are… believe them.
When you go out and the person is rude or unkind – pay attention…. And
ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS
This is something I have done since the beginning of dating in my 40s….. have an alternate plan if the date gets cancelled, the person ghosts, or something else happens. What I mean… is plan to get a pedicure, go to your favorite restaurant, go shopping… never get upset over someone else’s behavior –
LET THEM and prepare yourself for a great evening either way.
Xoxo,
Heidi
