First off, I am learning and researching all I can during this pandemic and have really gotten the education of a lifetime….in more ways than one.
Dating – so who knew in a pandemic it would be a feast or a famine? No joke. I am researching the dating world ..not fully committing myself to the road quite yet but have been doing my homework and venturing out minimally…..
Okay..so the dating world now is so different than 5 years ago – now you swipe and if you swipe wrong you can shake your phone and undo the bad swipe! I mean – who knew? Also, dating is now video chats! Saves time and you can bolt sooner or choose to invest!! Win – Win!
Here is my research so far….
First, dog 🐕 fishing – it is when someone has borrowed a dog for their profile. No joke. This is a thing and encountered two profiles when I asked about the dog – “oh its my friends or people look more attractive with dogs” – yes this is true but I don’t envision men doing this.
Second, Jekylling – it is when someone is sweet and kind and on a dime changes to mean and not flexible – aggressive and anger comments – almost inflammatory when a disagreement or difference of opinions takes place – happens a lot with texting.
Third, Ghosting – let me say – I had my first experience of ghosting! It was so surreal quite honestly. I liked the guy – had two dates and then crickets -at first I was taken back..then actually was like – does he have COVID? So..back in 1998, I had a guy supposed to meet me for studying Calculus III exam and he did not show. I did not get a call or text and come to find out – on the way to my house – he was in a motorcycle accident on 675 and nearly died – critical care for 3 days…anyway, I first jumped to “what a jerk” but that reality check woke me up – since then always tried to give the benefit of the doubt since that experience- So now at 40 – how old are you to ghost? And you really aren’t that busy….anyway, I did hear back after 4 days…but what can you really want with someone who’s ghosting you? You cannot educate those who ghost – if they don’t care enough to be honest – you need to move on and there will always be people perpetuating this stereotype of non-consideration- bye felicia 👋
Fourth, Glam-Boozled – you spent your time showering, getting your hair done, nails are checked and he cancels a the 11th hour and you have put in the effort to go out…so does he have a real excuse or not?
Fifth, Dial- Toning – you give out your number – person texts and you do not respond. Don’t be that person. Just be honest.
Sixth, the Texting Machine – you and he text all the time and talk but no game. Recognize this player as a player and enjoy the context but know “he probably is not that into you” – most likely compliments, supports, and listens – rarely talks of the future
Seventh, Kanye -ing. This is the person who is larger than life. Has the ability to make you king or queen and drops you for the craziest things. This person may not have a filter but is a rollercoaster – good and bad.
Eighth, Ex Life – this is the one who returned during quarantine because they know you and don’t want to be alone. Not long lasting – just here for circumstance
Ninth, Quantini – you would not be together under any other situation. You were just the best option right now. The criteria they normally have has been thrown out.
The silver linings are plentiful….and here are my takeaways…
1. It’s my job to be myself. The right people will gravitate. It’s not my job to be likeable.
2. I have enjoyed quarantine as much as possible – quite honestly – (outside of missing travel) it is has been a glorious 6 months – I enjoy being home, love working from home, multi- task like a queen and have reduced the clutter in my daily life.
3. I get asked …don’t you wish you were married with kids – to be honest, don’t you wish you were single and could make a mess, not do homework, eat ice cream, drive around, and do you 24/7? Shopping with me at the grocery or even for shoes can be kid like – I do me and if I only want to eat vegetables for a week or want chicken every night…that’s how I roll…
4. To answer the question above, I do want to find someone and spend my life with someone who makes me better and challenges me and is not competing with me – I know a lot of people who have settled and are miserable – I have been there, done that, and got the t-shirt… It will happen when it’s supposed to
5. I trust that God has my back. Sometimes the best things in life are unanswered prayers.
6. Prioritize you: It has been great being apart of 3 articles this year:
Staging sets the scene for your home. This allows a buyer to have an emotional connection to the space you have. Staging your space is done in layers.
Base: Primary Item
The most necessary items needed for the purpose of the room. For example a bed, a desk, a table and chairs
Layer 1: Secondary items that contribute to the function of the space
Side tables, lighting, occasional seating
Layer 2: Accent Pieces
Rugs, Artwork. These items accent the “style” or bridge differing styles with color and texture
Layer 3: “Icing” Pieces
These are comfort pieces and add to the luxury of the space. They beckon the viewer to feel compelled to interact within the space.
A well staged space will have a common thread that runs throughout the design. But don’t dwell on a single tone. Just as a song, a well staged room has highs and lows to engage a person using the space. Find a base color and accent with both lighter and deeper shades. Accent a room with accessories that round out the theme. Most items in a room should be a “middle” tone with a few special accents. Too many and there they get lost to an overstimulated mind. Use multiple fabric textures between the soft seating, the floor coverings and accent pillows.
The most challenging area can be closet space:
Notice the space is light and airy and is mostly white hangers and is not bulging with clothing. The majority of clothing was packed up to give a bigger feel to the room.
You will notice all white (Sherwin Williams Extra White) on trim, doors, and cabinets. The walls in most spaces is (Sherwin Williams Versatile Grey) and the Bathroom Vanity and Kitchen Island (Benjamin Moore Kendall Charcoal but paint from Sherwin Williams) the closet ceiling is a foam green to create a more spacious feel. Paint is an easy fix to stage a house and can add a large value to the end price. More pictures to come on the before and after.
Special thanks to @nthdegreecompanies specifically Neal, Jeff, Alan, and Derek.
I was inspired by the blogger @miamiamine who always has an eye for detail. Loved her master bath and recreated the best dupes on my budget!
*This would not have been possible without my friend Luis who does amazing work. He helps me complete my projects and ways provides assistance, recommendations, and solutions! Let me know if you need his number but please remember – I will cut in front of you in line 😜 if I have a new project and a deadline 😂 *and special thanks to my cousins Bev and Dennis who shared their friend with me 💫
As mentioned above – need Quartz from Countertop to create Shower Ledge on the Bottom.
Need floor tiles for the base as well
Shower Glass is spectacular. Opted for space between glass for the door and the work was incredible. If in Columbus, Springfield, Dayton contact Above All Glass Came out quickly, measured and was installed in record time and was perfect at the time of install.
Quartz countertops were cut on site – Discount Granite sets everything up.
So what does this cost???
I have been asked exact amounts for my bathroom and it will always depend on what is being done….for example – if you have to change plumbing or remove bathtubs, rip out difficult flooring, rewire electric….I would estimate high because you always run into issues and unexpected situations. The blogger’s bathroom was over 60k and included marble and designer tub, shower, products – mine is a dupe and my goal was to be 1/4 of her cost or less. I achieved that. It also will depend on if the contractor is getting everything or if you are providing material. For me, I like to get everything and be as involved as possible; but not everyone wants to do this….so to figure out your cost…
If you priced out all materials – to figure out labor and unexpected costs multiply by 2.5 to be safe.
So if all materials (toilet, tile, countertop, glass) was 6000 multiply by 2.5 =$15,000 this will give you a guesstimate before calling a contractor out.